Last day of June 2008...The conversation of relationship

I began my day today with an email to my fabulous friend Pedr. He had commented on my latest blog. I wrote back telling him how good it felt to get his responses each day. Which began the swirls of thinking, early in the day, before breakfast even!

I told Pedr that it felt great to know the gift has been received. Though I try to write it just for myself. I can't help but want to know that someone else read it, too. Even better is that it spurred some response in him. The delight is when it becomes a conversation.

I thought out loud that I would like to get to the point where it doesn't matter. Can I hold my own stories and can that be enough? Is it human nature to want someone else to know what is going on and to listen? Is it human nature to want to be responded to?

After breakfast I go into a community art session where the Masters graduates were dance leaders for small groups. We danced in straight lines, the graduate at the front of the line, with 3 or 4 people in their troupe lined up behind them. Our job as their dance troupe was to follow their lead, not necessarily to mimic them but to let their movements influence ours. To support their dance out of EGS, into the world. So we took their offerings and let it influence us, feeding it back to them. Afterwards when we were on break I heard one of the graduates saying that it was difficult because they could not see what their dance troupe was doing behind them. They made the offering and then couldn’t see the response. My morning quandary had appeared here too…

synchronistically, the next event was a lecture, where we looked at the role of relationship in artmaking! Exploring the idea that every creation is a co-creation, the work asks to be shown and responded to. That in artmaking we are holding out our hand to another. We are asking for a response. Art is a conversation, whether with another or with our self. And if it is just with our self, we know that we have the option to share it with someone at any time.

So the question becomes, is it narcissistic to want a response? Or is it human nature?

For me, today, I want conversation. I want to reflect with you, I want our worlds to engage and interact. I want to offer, I want to be received. And, though it is hard to say (my Catholic martyr upbringing?) I want to be responded to! AND I want to be receptive and respond to you. I want conversation.

6-28-08 The Lenses we look through...

I ended my day yesterday with wonderings about demons: can we face our demons alone or do we need others to help us see them? Or to see them more clearly? And can our demons be our guiding spirits? Do they disguise them selves as our fears?

Tonight was our last night in our leadership course. Some of my classmates were not happy with the course and with how the teacher handled things. I on the other hand had a great experience and learned a lot about myself and about how to be a better expressive arts practitioner. I also noticed that the people who were unhappy did not participate, they had the opportunity to do one-on-one work with the “expert” and they did not take the offer.

So my question is, was their dissatisfaction with the class really their demons asking for some attention? My “ship” has been on a course as of late of taking responsibility. I have learned that if I take responsibility, then I have the opportunity to learn and grow. If I don’t take responsibility I blame someone else and never get to the learning. So then my demon has to whack me over the head again, and again….

At one point in the course I too was disappointed. I had signed up for this incredibly expensive-need-to-travel-all-the-way-to-Switzerland training because of what I had heard happened in this very course that I was taking, and it wasn’t happening, he was doing it different! Was it my demon that haunted me? Disguised in disappointment? Anyone who knows me well probably knows what my next move was…I went and talked to my teacher. I told him the story that I was carrying resentment around. He looked at me with his all loving, all accepting eyes and laughed, saying, “Oh Tish.” That was all I remembered him saying. He may have said more, but that is what I remember. Those words and the look in his eyes like I had forgotten who he was. I looked back at him and said, “Okay, I will try to trust you.”

By the end of the day, I went to him and said, “Okay, I trust you, at least 99 percent.” He had one session with a student that was so brilliant that it was all I needed. Anything after would be icing on the cake.

Today he worked with me for five minutes and I was able to take something that I have been working on for at least a year and get resolution. In the review of my short session he thanked me for talking to him the day before. That it had changed the course of his actions, because of mine.

So I sit back and evaluate the course with as unjudgemental an eye as possible. I see that if I had not talked to the teacher when I was unhappy, this “thing” would have been between us and he would not have even known it. Oh, how unfair that would have been! My new moto is: “life is to friggin short.” I cannot hold back any longer, out of fear. I must speak the truth of who I am. Some of my classmates are taking their grief and resentment to bed with them tonight. And it may be because I asked for what I wanted and they didn’t. I have no regrets.

So I end this story in gratitude. I thank all the stars that have lined up to make me the fabulous person that I feel I am today. I feel my mother and my father standing beside me as I write tonight. What I have accomplished in “standing in the truth of who I am” has affected them as well. We stand united in their past, my present and our future. I am blessed. They are blessed. Life is as it should be. I cry. Tears stream down my face. They are tears so perfectly blended with joy and grief that I feel more alive than ever. I am alive! I am absolutely, without a doubt, willing to "stand in the truth of who I am". What ever happens from here is a surprise.

Dancing with our Demons

Today with our morning off I slept in until almost ten! Threw my clothes on to get to breakfast before they took the food away. After, myself and four other women took a short walk through the Swiss forest to the Fletschhorn Hotel. It is a beautiful little place tucked into the side of the mountain with an incredible view. On the top floor there is a small gallery of paintings and sculpture. In the restaurant and hallways are other great works. We had a leisurely walk, wandered through the art, taking many photos, and then sat on the patio drinking coffee and sharing dessert (for lunch!) Part of me had a hard time settling in because I had planned to do work today. When I returned there was only an hour until class. Ahhhhh, deep breath and settling into the lovely, peaceful place I am in, letting go of the shoulds… piano music from our artist-in-residence playing in the background, my door open and the fresh Alpine air drifts in. The memory of the roasted apful tart still lingers in my mouth. Ahhhhh, another deep breath. Yes, I am here and I am blessed.

My horoscope today says: Today you may be more intrigued by what you don't know than by what you do know. You have a sense that you're missing something and this motivates you to delve beneath the surface to find what's hidden. You may strike gold as you uncover a treasure of information that leads you in a new direction. But then again, you might already have all the data you need.

This sounds like the last two weeks!

This was a big heart opening day. Lots of tears as I watched my fellow comrades make friends with their demons. Which allowed me to cozy up to mine a bit, too. I ended the school day walking my teacher and mentor home and being reminded once again that I am right where I am supposed to be. The best I can do to describe my day is to say, “If I die before I wake, I will die a very happy camper!”

The question I end my day with is, can we face our demons alone or do we need others to help us see them? Or to see them more clearly? It is interesting that the word demon originally meant guiding spirit. Though the word has been awarded a negative spin, I can see how the things we fear CAN be our guiding spirits. They show us where our work needs to be done and a new path to take, if we can walk through, rather than around.

All right, too late to be getting into all this, I need to rest my weary brain!

xoxo
Tish

Thursday is our first leadership day...6-26-08

The photo is from our course on leadership. We created a human installation of an institution and the hierarchy of people. It wasn’t my favorite teaching, but it was fun. (Notice I am at the bottom of the totem pole. I am a student at this institute, yet, as my fellow students at the bottom there discusssed, with out us, there is no school. So we hold more power than our rank in height may show...)

We also looked at our personal history of power, how we have used it and how we want to use it in the future. In a small group discussion we started a dialog about who holds the power in the relationship? My classmate Eileen brought up the idea that every time we step out of relationship (out of eros) there is a power struggle. And isn’t it the power struggles in relationships that cause the suffering? Which brought me back to my thoughts of a couple days ago about the difference between being IN A relationship and being IN relationship. From this it seems that when we are IN A relationship, anything goes. When we are IN relationship with each other, the other has as much importance as the me. The we is as important as the me. Like healthy narcissism. If narcissus could look into the water and love his image, and then turn and offer that love to others. But he couldn’t, didn’t he drown trying to get closer to his image in the water? When we don’t truly love ourselves, then there is nothing to give the world. We withhold our love because there is not enough for even the I. What happens then if we act as if. If we act as if we love ourselves by offering acts of love to the world around us? Does the love grow inside us? Can we then stay in relationship with the “other”? Granted, I may be talking out of my ass here. But this is the musing that has come to me today, and I am fascinated by how it ties together with the last days themes. 

That is it for me tonight. I am tired. My brain is tired of asking questions and trying to find answers. I am looking forward to a great night’s sleep. No class until 4:00 tomorrow, so I get to sleep in!!!! I will end with a quote that totally aligns with my state of living these days…

“Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves... live everything. Live the question now. Perhaps then, some day far in the future, you will gradually without even noticing it, live your way into the answer. “
-Rainer Maria Rilke

Short and Sweet - Wednesday, 6-25-08

Had a fabulous day today. I find it hard to believe, but summer school is half over. It has gone VERY fast. 

Took a silent hike with my class to a glacier pond and painted and wrote two poems. The walk came after hearing an expressive arts therapist from Norway talk about her 15 years of work with Bosnian refugees. Children killed, men tortured in concentration camps. This while I sat in San Diego, in my little bubble. She did great work with them, helping them to return home in their bodies. Unfortunately when many returned home to Bosnia, it wasn’t a warm welcome. And most still have not finished rebuilding their homes. The silent hike in the afternoon was a perfect balancing. At 10:30 p.m. when classes were done, the student lounge was unusually crowded. The beer, wine and left over birthday cake from an earlier celebration helped sooth the hearts of the helpers who can’t heal it all. I headed down the hill as the dancing began. Still feeling quiet, maybe tomorrow I will dance. I leave you with the two poems I wrote while I was at the glacier pond.

Almost Dinner

Mosquito buzzes and bites
Leaving a red welt
My instantaneous reaction
Was to swat
He lies dead beside me
Somewhere at the edge
Of the glacier pond.
Other mosquitoes buzz
Maybe in a funeral song
Maybe just seeing me as dinner…


The Myth Revisited

I go close to the water’s edge
To catch a glimpse of Narcissus
In the glacier water.
I am curious to meet her.
Is she healthy or sick
Happy or sad?
I only see a silhouette
No details that tell any secrets.
Little hairs on the top of her head
Are wild and unruly
Just like mine
I see we have something in common.

Forever leads to love…Tuesday, 6-24-2008

...or a conversation about it!

This is how my course started today…Paolo Knill, the founder of Expressive Arts and my mentor, playing his grand piano as we stretched, danced, or did what we wanted (he does this everyday, three times a day, when we have him as a teacher). For me it was a moving meditation. (in both senses of the word) As I stretched, the idea, “What if love just is,” crept in. What if I don’t attach any meaning to love. I take it down to the phenomenon, rather than conceptualizing it by attaching it to forever. What if love just is, and then that love is brought to relationship. Rather than looking to the relationship for love?

I am not exactly sure what it all means, but at the time that I had the thought it felt new and exciting! Or one that I had accepted in a new way. Which then of course leads me to need to define love. What is it, for me? I gave myself the homework today to look at my personal philosophy around love and relationship. What have been my guiding ideas in the past, and are they still in tact today or have they changed? Or do they want to change. 

One thing I know for sure, this is a very exciting time for me in my life. The vision of the work that I had with my mother when she was dying: working with teens using the arts, came true and it feels fabulous. I am here in this amazing land, studying with some amazing people from all around the world. And I have these great questions and wonderings coursing through my heart and veins. More questions are coming than answers, but I think that is the fun part, a feeling of being totally alive! Here are a couple more questions that came up:

What is the difference between “being in a relationship” and “being in relationship”?
Do we long to be in A relationship, and then when we get it, avoid being “in relationship” in that relationship? (Is that a conundrum? Say that 3 times fast!) Thank goodness for questions because then I have something to write about tomorrow!

This was a great day! Getting to watch my mentor, the master in this field, at work; connecting in conversation with friends from all over the world where things are so different yet so similar; sharing good food with those friends; having the evening free (to balance my checkbook, paint, talk to Shea(!!!!!) and other friends via iChat and Skype; and now, lay my head to rest, earlier than usual. Life is good. Thanks for reading!

Stay cool, don’t worry about being a fool, live the biggest life you can! (Yikes, did I say that?!)

Musings about love...Sunday 6-22-08

On a personal quest, I brought with me questions about relationship. What is my attachment to “forever”, my longing for forever, what does it mean to me? I didn’t pre-plan that theme (do we ever?) As I decorated my journal for taking notes in my courses I looked through a box of word scraps and what words I was attracted to, “forever” was one. I wasn’t sure why, and I really didn’t like it, but I glued it onto the front of my book anyway, because it felt like it insisted on being there. The call was greater than the aversion I guess. So every day I look at this journal with the word forever on it. It began irritating me early on. One night I added the word “sucks” next to it! Forever Sucks! In my walks and hikes I have been talking to my classmates, mostly women, about their relationships. Married 30 years, married 33 years, married 27 years, married 10 years… learning their stories of how they met, how they stayed together, how it is now. They all love the person they are with now, more than they did when they met. They would not choose differently.

A teacher in my life told me years ago to “beware of the idea of forever” that it does not exist. That it is a trap for suffering. At that point I created meaning for myself, that relationships are not forever. I could not let go of my thinking that love is forever. And I still have not, nor am I sure that I want to. I have always felt like a forever person, yet I see that I have not chosen forever relationships. Maybe they don’t exist, maybe it wasn’t really what I wanted. It is a humbling moment when I accept responsibility for this fact. Not blaming anyone, but seeing it is me that walked this journey.

And then to combine these two themes, the idea of forever, or not, and resilience and glimmers of hope, or not. How do we stay resilient in the journey of love. Do the marriages that last bend back easily, finding the shape that brought them together? Do they choose more love than fear? Everyone I talked to said they had shaky moments that they thought the relationship might end, but it didn’t and they are grateful. I felt filled with hope a few months ago. What was the meaning that I gave to love that created that hope?

As I sit here writing I hear the birds singing a delightful improv. A choir of song is floating in also, sounds like traditional songs of Switzerland, complete with clapping. I can imagine that there is dancing that the music is supporting, too. Then, the occasional baaa of a sheep works as an accent to an already lively production. Today is Sunday. I have lost track of days so realizing that it is Sunday helped my state of reverence and musing find comfort in it being the Sabbath.

Thanks for stopping in…

Summer is here! 6-21-08

Interesting how themes arise. I came in to this training holding the wondering if resilience can be taught. Then when I prepared my presentation on suffering I connected to the question, is a necessary ingredient in resilience a glimmer of hope? And that leading to the question, how helpful are the arts in creating a glimmer of hope?… And everywhere the idea of “a glimmer of hope” seems to be popping up. In my presentation on suffering and then in lectures, movies and conversations. Someone else even noticed it too, and they weren’t even carrying these questions… I muse if the conversation was always around and I didn’t notice it or do we attract the conversations that we long for?

I brought my thoughts on hope and resilience onto a light hike called the chapel walk. It is a path from Saas Fee down to the lower town, Saas Grund, about a 2 hour hike with a stop to eat my lunch. Along the walk are scenes depicted in little houses, maybe a little smaller than a garden shed, of the life of Jesus. Near the top of the walk (near Saas Fee) there is a small chapel where they hold mass and where you can light candles. As I hiked I mused about the Jesus story and how religion revolves around giving people hope, offering stories around creation, survival, and re-creation. I noticed the simple act of lighting a candle in the chapel was an act of looking for a glimmer of hope, that the prayer I offered when lighting it, would be answered.

I then started looking at 12 step meetings and how they too offer stories of survival and recreation. One of the gifts of expressive arts is that it reconnects us to a community where we can tell our stories through artmaking. We as people have been separated from the communities where we made art. Where we danced the days hunt, around the campfire. Where we wove our family story into the blanket for the winter. Where we painted our bodies and faces, the walls, the dirt. Where the stories of our ancestors were alive in the community.

Maybe that is why these blogs have gotten so popular. Because we, as human beings crave story. We are hungry for the inner workings of our friends, family and even strangers so that we know that we are not alone. And equally longing to tell our own story to someone who will listen and care for that story.

I don’t know where all this musing is going, but it is swirling in my heart and my head and it makes me feel alive and happy. Thank you for taking the time to listen to my stories. And thank you to those who have responded with your own stories. The dialogue is where the real satisfaction comes. Letting one story inspire another. The connection that is made between our hearts when we respond to each other. The listening to another and the listening to ourselves. If you feel brave enough, you can not just respond to me directly, but you can click the comment button just below each entry, and share your story with my small community. Don’t worry, this is not going out to the whole world.

Much love and thanks to you. Happy Summer!

An easy day 6-20-08

Today was a fairly easy, low key day, and tomorrow we have the morning off! Yipee! Add to that I painted today, and life is good. It was the first painting I have done for me in quite a few months…I improvised a little poem about it when we presented what we did:

A walk in the wild flowers,
Brings me back dizzy
With color.

Before I started painting I went out and photographed color. (An assignment my friend and colleague, Sabine, gave to her class.) When I came back the idea of painting nature was over powered by my desire to do one of my blind portraits of myself. I cried as I drew it when I realized how long it had been since I did one, and how long it has been since I have done art for art’s sake. Not to sell or for promotional purposes. Thank God!

Saw a film of the people from Sierra Leone that Carrie has been working with, as well as a film about an artist, Albert Acalay, who created thousands and thousands of paintings in his life time. He had escaped the concentration camps by telling them that he was young and had great things to do in his life yet… He died recently at age 90. He painted most every day until then. He said that he must put a paint brush in his hand every day, because he must. He also said something like, painting pinches me in the ass until I get going… Someday I hope to have a studio like his that I spend time in EVERY day!!!!

One of the wonderful things about this summer school is the relationships you create. I have a wonderful class. No big irritations between the members (yet), though we have two plus weeks to go! (Yet we were together for 3.5 weeks last year and got along for the most part.) You hang with these people every single day, morning, noon and night, they become family. I am very grateful. This year, to the best of my knowledge, we have people from: U.S., Canada, Switzerland, Germany, Norway, South Africa, Peru, Columbia, Egypt, Turkey, Palestine, Italy and Austria. I may be missing someplace… My classmate from Austria looks like he could be my brother! (My ancestors from my mother’s father’s side were from Austria.) Some day I would like to go check out my “roots” and the great thing about going to school here is that I have friends all over the world.

Time to get to bed. Though I have tomorrow morning off, breakfast is only served until 10:00 a.m. and breakfast is my absolute favorite meal here, so I don’t want to miss it! (This fabulous dense grain bread that I top with brie and jelly, a soft boiled egg, strawberry yogurt, amazing coffee, grapefruit juice… I have looked everywhere for this bread, it is so good, but I cannot find it in San Diego…)
Good Night!

Seven hours from now,

Seven hours from now in a different time zone,

my son will be graduating.

He says, "It is only eighth grade."

I say, "And you are my only son."

Have a great time Shea, I will be thinking about you!

Trouble in Swissy City

Well, maybe trouble is a word that is a little big...My adapter broke for my computer. So I will have to see if I can replace it or my dear friend Pedr has offered to FedEx me one...A very kind gesture. I am caught between knowing that NOT having a computer would lend itself to more of a "getting away" feeling. And, I am really enjoying writing on it...so, you will see. I can still use the Schools computer, it is just a first come first serve situation.

On another note, we had a great day. Hiked up to a glacier lake and did land art. My group did a creation story of sorts. We birthed a woman out of the mud. She was such a brave participant. She was naked, covered in mud, half in freezing glacier water. It was quite a surprise to our audience when she rose from the mud. Photo is attached but it may be too small to see her, she has not yet been birthed (if you click or double click on it it should open in a new window)...It was nice to have a day that was about being in this beautiful country and no classroom work! Tomorrow we will be back to it. Hopefully I will be well rested!

Hope to keep in touch..the computer situation will tell more. My battery is already at half way...

Day 7 - 6/18/08

Wow. Wow. WOW. Monica and I did our presentation on suffering today. It was amazing, honoring, emotional, big. Once again I get in touch with what an honor it is to do this work and my respect for those who are doing it along side me. I am not sure that I can say anymore at this moment. I am growing bigger this year in a way that I am becoming more humble and also feeling my insignificance. What I know more than anything is that I am blessed. Thank you.

And just after our presentation on suffering, the sun came out for the first time since being here. Do you think it was a coincidence or did we give the sorrow the nod that it was asking for so that the clouds could go on vacation?

Speaking of vacations. Tomorrow we get to take a mandatory hike. THANK YOU! They say the sun will shine tomorrow too!

By the way, does anyone know how I post photos on this blog? If you do, email me!

Day 5 – 6/16/06

The overwhelm of my day and a presentation I need to get ready for may limit my writing today. We are on a philosophy section and it is so much information and then testing my beliefs. I can’t imagine being a foreign speaker and trying to take it all in…

We had to break into dyads and my partner and I will be exploring the topic of “victim” and presenting it to our class. I am very excited because the whole idea of victim was a total surprise from a topic on resilience that I started with. My partner on the project, Monica, is from Peru and has been working with the earthquake victims there and is using them as her starting point or our study. I will be thinking of the homeless high school students that I just had the privilege of working with, so two different kinds of “victims”. Mostly though I will be looking at my own life. Perfect. This has been a topic of mine the last few months, once again serendipity has found me. This school is so invigorating. They are less interested in what we know than in what we don’t know and want to learn. The questions, the excitement, the passion….I am grateful.

Lucky for you, short and sweet!
Love
Tish
P.S. I hear cow bells in the distance!

Day 4. 6/15/08 Philosophy Anyone?

Today we looked at the ideas of home and exile. Which was amazing in the fact that at lunch, just before class started, I was talking to someone about my longing for home. Not missing San Diego, but the longing that I have been carrying with me much of my adult life, or maybe my whole life. What does "home" mean for me? We did an art process on exploring that for ourselves and then looked at the idea of "exile", what does that mean for us?

In the evening we went to a panel discussion on the topic. It was a fascinating thing to experience in myself that through (imagining) exile my connection to myself got greater, in a new and unexpected way. Then a colleague on the panel who is doing expressive arts with the ex boy soldiers in Sierra Leone shared stories of many whom are now amputees. Missing arms or legs and living in refugee camps. And how they know home in a deeper way than I have ever thought of. A young boy who had both his legs cut off by his captures said, “Home is dancing on my hands.”

Fabulously brilliant ideas were thrown around the room and got me thinking and asking more questions. Here are a few that struck me:

- We are exiles when we do not know the consequences of our actions.
- Reconciliation of the most basic level is when skin touches skin.
- Home is the absence of what was.
- The absence is where home lives.
- In the emptiness or absence we can feel our own humanity.
- Connecting in our emptiness…
- Every ground is a potential graveyard.
- Is exile a myth?
- Why are we so attached to the stories of exile?
- A nation that exiles others is impoverished itself.
- Does exile serve as a resource for human evolution?
- Every belonging creates an exclusion.
- What does it mean to belong?
- Can we long for a place or is it the memory we associate with the place that we long for?

The question that I then turned to for myself is: Is my longing for home a self induced exile? Am I more comfortable believing I am on the outside of my desire, that it is not being met? I know that doing the art on exile was much more satisfying than doing the art on home. And the home that I ultimately created in exile, had a depth that my original home piece did not have. Granted, this is all in the imaginal. And I could not know the exile that many in the world feel, yet I can imagine who I know myself to be and what I think I would do, and I have experienced small exiles in my life. So the next question becomes, can I create that level of intimacy with myself, that deep sense of home that I imagined in my art, without being exiled, or is exile a necessary step toward “home”. What I do know, and this is the GIFT of this work I love to do, expressive arts, is that I for the first time I felt some semblance of what “home’ meant for me in the deeper sense. So now I do not feel so alienated from it. I feel like I have enough of a sense of it that I can go back to and maybe even build from. Don’t know if that makes sense. I would love to hear your ideas on it, email me!

Just another Sunday evening in Saas Fee with a little philosophy thrown in…I am way too tired to write more at this moment. I will end on a Nietzsche quote from tonight…

“You must have chaos inside you to birth a dancing star.”

My camera is not working still, hopefully by tomorrow I can get it figured out and start posting some photos. Of course, today was cold and rainy, clouds covered the mountains so there was no hint of them. If it wasn’t for the strange architecture, we could have been in La Jolla on a June gloom day…

Lots of love! Tish

Day 3...Settling in to a not-so-foreign land

It was a strange moment when I got off the plane and walked down the tunnel to the airport. The tunnel wasn’t really a tunnel because it had windows and you could see the fleet of Swiss planes lined up. There was a moment that I almost forgot that was where I was and that I was now half way across the world. This is my fifth summer in Switzerland, so it is very familiar, and still filled with differences and surprises.

Which got me thinking about what is different about being in Switzerland?

- The obvious difference is in the landscape, especially the town of Saas Fee where I am staying. It is like living in a postcard. In the Alps with the Alps rising high above in all directions. This is not a place for the claustrophobic. Yet the sky, expecially the night sky, is a window to the universe.
- I am completely dehydrated. the altitude and dry air I am guessing. Feels like I can’t drink enough water…(Saas Fee is at about 6,000 feet…I live at maybe 100 feet…big difference. The top of the mountain is over 11,000 feet…)
- Speaking of water, you can get fabulous glacier water straight from the tap. I am a water snob I must admit, and this is the best.
- Nose bleeds…or at least nose blows that bleed. A colorful addition to your tissue.
- Swiss hot cocoa, nothing better!!!!
- My pants aren’t warm enough…it is cold here! (I think it was in the low 40’s today…) So much for packing the light weight pants…may need to double layer them…
- I laid down on my Heidi bed yesterday for a nap and woke up with a big ole hip pain. Not good. Usually the beds are mucho comfortable. I am sure that it may have had something to do with the 24 hours of travel that I had prior to laying down. Hopefully stretching and ibupropin will help alleviate it soon. The swiss though know how to create warm and cozy beds with their down comforters.
- Gas is at a premium, and I don’t mean fuel! The altitude blows your belly up like a balloon. Plus I am eating vegetarian…at least it is fragrance free!
- The bathrooms all have state of the art plumbing. Even if the establishment isn’t that nice, the bathroom will have modern fixtures and be impeccably clean.
- Speaking of clean. Everything in Switzerland is clean. You could eat off the airport floor. There is no trash anywhere and if there is it was probably an American who left it! On my travels on the train an old Swiss woman shook her finger at me for putting my feet on the seat across from me…with my shoes on. All I could think of was elevating my puffy feet, I had a lapse of recall of where I was.
- They don’t create much trash. They don’t have disposables, with zillions of layers of packaging. They buy what they need for a day or two and it is fresh.
- They speak Swiss German, or Italian or French and they almost all speak English too. My friend Iris who lives outside of Zurich, her kids speak all of the languages, Swiss German, Italian, French and English. These kids aren't the exception, it is the norm. What a great thing! The owner of the hotel that hosts all the students told us tonight that all kids in Saas Fee go away to boarding school from age 15 - 20. As a mom, that doesn't sound so good...
- You can hear accordion music wafting through the air on a (cold) summer night. Just happened, went out on my balcony and listened to a little concert. Brrrrrr…

All right, I am sure there is much more that I could write. But it has officially clicked past my bedtime! We began with a short 3 hour gathering with introductions tonight. The routine starts tomorrow: 9:15 – 12:30, 4:00 – 6:30 and finally 8:00 – 10:30 p.m.

In the opening “ceremony of sorts” Margo Fuchs read a poem. The last line of it was: LIFE NEEDS US FULLY AWAKE. I leave you with that and the question, what can you do in your life today to show that you are fully awake?
Good Night, xoxo Tish

Day one and two...plus the pre-travel musings of a packaphobic

Swissyland Adventure – take off and landing

"Sixty pounds!" That is ridiculous! That is the result of my packing light? Packing light was my guiding force. Packing light influenced all my decisions while I packed. I will take these pants because they weigh less. Granted there are six pairs. These layered shirts are good because I need to be ready for summer or winter since I am traveling to the alps and then to Ohio, maybe 14 of those. I decided not to take many things, like shoes…what if I would have taken them all? I must admit that I may have a Packing Disorder, it is a little known disorder, not yet listed in the DSM.

Someday when it is listed in the DSM (The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) it will probably contain some of these in it’s description:
- Feels extreme anxiety when it is time to pack for a trip
- Empty suitcase and open closet door may cause a panic attack
- Stress level rises as packing begins.
- Questions like, “How will I know what I want to wear on day 1 or even day10?” create increases in blood pressure.
Once packed, the repeating thought that “there is still room for one more thing” wins out over any kind of sanity.
- Packing does not end until the absolute last moment of exit from home, and may include a trip or two back into the house for last minute forgotten items.
- When arriving at the final destination there are immediate remembering of what was forgotten.

I don’t think it would be listed as a personality disorder like being borderline, or a mental disorder like schizophrenia or a medical condition. But then again, if I am suffering from it, would I even know? Maybe it is psychosocial… a generational result of depression era parents, who worried that there may not be enough for the next day, week or year. Or maybe it is purely mathematical or organizational, and I am missing that gene. I know I am not the only one afflicted by this disturbation, maybe a support group could help. "Hello, my name is Tish and I am packingly challenged." I have a fantasy of someday going on an extended trip, okay maybe not extended (to begin with) maybe start with a week or a weekend…with just what I can comfortably, easily, without hardly noticing it is there, carry on my back or wear on my back. A good bucket list item or new years resolution. This reminds me I did do that for a few days last year when I traveled in Switzerland before school started. I grabbed a few items from my suitcase and shipped the big ole thing to Saas Fee while I carried the weeks needs on my back…(Wow, the exceptional case! I have one, maybe there is hope for me!)

To make a long story shorter, I had (luckily) packed an extra duffle bag for the option of bringing more home than I left with, so I was able to transfer 10 pounds of “stuff” to that bag and avoid the $50 Your-bag-is-way-to-heavy-lady fee. And low and behold, between last year and this year, someone conveniently redesigned the Swiss trains so now you do not have to lift your bags up 3 or 4 steep narrow steps to get on the train, but just roll it on. (you must do it quickly enough that you get a smidgen of air so that your wheels don’t get caught in the 4 inch crack between landing and train.)

So, I have arrived. Have a lovely room in the hotel this year rather than an apartment at the edge of town. I had to pay them 3 francs more a day to get them to unlock a little mini kitchen so that I could store my apples and cheese in the fridge for my evening ritual and not have my vitamins all over my dining room table. I have a little sitting area also with a television that has cable. I hope that my life here is never so boring that I need to ever watch it, unless it is to learn a little German. I have re-arranged my room so that it passes my personal feng shui expectations. There is little to do about my bed, which looks like it was made for Heidi, but I do have two hideaway beds if I want to sleep in the middle of my living room, or invite guests for a sleep-over.

Thanks for listening to my musings. I decided that this would get me writing, which has been my goal as of late, and also, keep me from having to write the same thing over and over to each of you. So check in every day. Or every once in a while. Or never again! Your choice. Granted I won’t have as much to say as school begins tonight and I won’t have leisure time like right now. Feels good to be on vacation for a day…or most of a day! Lots of love to you!